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Celebrating 20 Years

Posted By on March 18, 2015


Today my husband and I celebrate 20 years of marriage. Whoa! Where did the time go? I’m serious!! Time really DOES fly after marriage, 3 kids, several moves and job changes, starting a business, and going through the good and bad times. Life is quite a ride!

I can tell you that on my wedding day, standing in front of the man I was vowing my earthly life to, I had NO idea. I really had NO clue what marriage was going to require of me. Does anybody – really – have a clue what to expect? What I DID know was that I wasn’t going to be marrying anyone else. This was it. He was it. I knew that. We were going to be together no matter what.

And here we are. 20 years later. 20 years!!!! That’s an accomplishment.




I researched the traditional anniversary gifts to give that correspond with what anniversary you celebrate and I found out some interesting things about the Platinum Anniversary (20th wedding anniversary):

20th Anniversary Traditional Gift: China. It symbolizes the beautiful, elegant, and delicate love for one another over the past 20 years.

20th Anniversary Contemporary/Modern Gift: Platinum. Platinum is strong and enduring, just like your 20 year old marriage.

20th Anniversary Gemstone: Emerald or a yellow or golden diamond.

20th Anniversary Color: Emerald green or white.

20th Anniversary Flower: Day Lily. The meaning of a day lily is that of coquetry such as flirting, playful behavior towards one another.

I NEVER KNEW!! Did you know there were all these “extras” to celebrate each year’s anniversary?

When my husband and I celebrated our 1st anniversary, we had just purchased our first home. I loved that house! It had a fabulous porch and a great back deck that we hosted many parties on. Anyhow – since it was our first anniversary, the Paper Anniversary, we wrote letters to each other the night of our first anniversary to be opened on our 25th anniversary. I got to thinking about those letters a few months back. Why did we postdate so far into the future to open them? We never even questioned that we’d be together after 25 years. And you know, I do not remember what I wrote. Not at all! I remember we were both tearing up while we were writing. So many questions going through our heads – what will we be like on our 25th anniversary? Will death take one of us before? Will we have kids? Where will life take us?

First Home

Current Home


Five more years until we can open those letters and the suspense is killing me. But I’m so thankful for these 20 years. Thankful for the struggles. Thankful for the triumphs. Thankful that we have grown from each of them. We haven’t always passed the tests but we persevered. Together.

Today. Tomorrow. Always.

Happy Anniversary to the love of my life!

About The Author

Darlene is a homeschool mother to her 3 children, a music/voice teacher, coffee fanatic and owner/founder of TaylorMade Weddings. She has earned the title of Best Wedding Planner for Winchester, VA in 2013 from Virginia Wedding & Event Network. Her passion, commitment to excellence and attention to detail has allowed her to work alongside some of the most talented vendors in the event business all over the state of Virginia. Her clients are one of a kind and her service is tailored to meet their individual needs. Darlene is also on the panel of experts at "Pop the Question" where she mentors couples planning their own celebrations.


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