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The E-Vite Dilemma: Save the World or Save Tradition?

Posted By on May 31, 2012

In this article from Sorry, your wedding invitation was eaten by my spam filter –, we take a look at the modern wedding trend of sending wedding invitations via e-mail, called “e-vites.” Most of us are familiar with an online invitation of some sort – maybe you’ve gotten one through Eventbrite to attend a seminar or corporate meeting. The ease of paying for your seat and RSVP-ing online is definitely a bonus for the on-the-go person like me. I can do it all from my phone or my desk, instantly mark the date in my calendar, print tickets, and set reminders. But, tradition aside, are e-vites appropriate for the occasion of a wedding?

Weddings are formal occasions, one of life’s special moments, and special moments need special attention! Everyone puts on their best duds and their best behavior (for the most part), has a great meal, gets special treatment – how can we treat it as every day? I get e-mail every day. I don’t get an invitation to a formal occasion every day. Shoot, I don’t even get a card in the mail but on my birthday and that’s from my mom – the die-hard traditionalist. In our day, we get congratulatory wishes for milestone events in our life via Facebook and Twitter. Are they special? Eh…sure, maybe. But how much more special is it to get a handwritten note in the mail? When was the last time you got something personally handwritten to you in the mail, or left for you on your bedside table? How did you feel?


I hear it all: e-vites reduce your carbon footprint, they save money, they cater to our digital generation…but, you know, there are companies who make invitations out of recycled paper. You can reduce your carbon footprint that way and you can recycle that paper after the wedding. There are other ways to reduce your carbon footprint for your wedding: using china, stemware, flatware and cloth napkins (less trash) and giving guests favors like seed packets in biodegradable paper. You can also save money by printing your own invitations on recycled paper from your home computer. Remember, the style of invitation you send to your guests will set the tone of your event. When a guest receives a formal invitation in the mail, they instinctively know that it’s something special, something classy. When a guest receives an invitation in their e-mail box – no matter how beautifully designed it is – they feel more casual about it as if it’s a memo about an upcoming meeting. Be eco-friendly where you can without sacrificing the formality of the event.

As far as catering to our digital generation – don’t we do too much of that on a daily basis? We have iPads, iPhones, and our kids are on computers for school. With all of this technology to make our lives “better,” the basic skills of conversation and socializing are lost to this generation. We’ll just text our conversations – and horribly at that! The art of writing – I mean handwriting –  is lost to this generation almost to the point that we do not know how to write a basic letter or express our thoughts in written form. We view major events through our LCD screens and chronologically post our lives on Facebook and Twitter. Isn’t it time we take a break from the digital and fully, and presently, treat these special occasions as special and with the respect and care they deserve?

Photo: Wedding Paper Divas

About The Author

Darlene is a homeschool mother to her 3 children, a music/voice teacher, coffee fanatic and owner/founder of TaylorMade Weddings. She has earned the title of Best Wedding Planner for Winchester, VA in 2013 from Virginia Wedding & Event Network. Her passion, commitment to excellence and attention to detail has allowed her to work alongside some of the most talented vendors in the event business all over the state of Virginia. Her clients are one of a kind and her service is tailored to meet their individual needs. Darlene is also on the panel of experts at "Pop the Question" where she mentors couples planning their own celebrations.


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